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Who was the best-smelling person to you, what do you think their secret fragrance was or what might explain it? (sopuli.xyz)
submitted 11 months ago by to c/main@sopuli.xyz
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Avoid partners or love interests if you can, focus purely on non-pheremonal smell sense

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[–] 2 points 11 months ago (3 children)

I know shea butter skin care products are part of it, but outside of that, every time I ask they either laugh it off or accept my question as a compliment and say “awww stop, you’re too kind”. It almost feels like a form of “bless your heart” or “I ain’t seen shit”, but I never get a straight answer.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    You never press it?

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    …that was more the intent of my last sentence.

    I’m Asian from the US South. You learn real quick that pressing a black person for information isn’t always great for race relations. Where I grew up if you pressed MeMaw (our daycare teacher) for an answer, all you were getting back was extreme sarcasm or anger. I grew up knowing when not to “press it”. Go too far and MeMaw would slap the shit out of you and you knew you deserved it. With my friends, there’s just some aspects of black culture that aren’t for us, and that’s ok.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

    You didnt ask for a brand name? Thats the least inoffensive thing you can di assumjng asking to smell like them isnt perceived as an insult per se

    Just ask

    What is your fragrance or what product do you use recommend?

    Even if its different from their own secret brand, Be and look sincere in asking. I doubt they'll be too offended by asking their advice

    Everyone fancies themself a curator of taste or that which is desirable

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