Kitty will be ok, thank you. Just needs teethies taken care of. If we're lucky not pulled, just anesthesia and deep cleaned, so not really surgery, but still expensive as hell. If not lucky, teeth pulled and painkillers, so more like surgery. He goes in tomorrow, both of us will be very unhappy.

Oof, I don’t know how I’d function if I had a toddler

I literally don't. I'm making do on about a fifth of the income I had when I was still together with my ex and she at least spent SOME time taking care of the child.

I live in the old family home my grandparents built, but it's a big-ass house and I live in a cold-ass country so like a third to a half of my income goes on heating it in the winter. I could of course move somewhere, but then I'd have to pay rent, and that's a year-round expense. Place is not in the best shape or a great location either, so I can't even sell it and buy an apartment in one of the cities where there's actually shit to do lol

Luckily once my toddler is willing to spend full days in kindergarten instead of the current 2-3 hours before the nap time, my finances will get better and I can replace the expensive and labor-intensive wood furnace central heating system with an air-to-water heat pump, saving me a bunch of money and some time. Right now if it gets super cold I get to sleep 3-4 hours at most at night because I have to go put in more briquettes or wood lol