Perhaps I exaggerate, but this person was in a geographic region particularly hard-hit and turns out is really into some of the dangrous behaviour (adjusting filters as part of coming out is, evidently, difficult).

In 1990, AIDS caused 61% of all deaths of men aged 25-44 (born 1946-1965) in San Francisco, 35% in New York, 51% in Ft. Lauderdale, 32% in Boston, 33% in Washington, DC, 39% in Seattle, 34% in Dallas, 38% in Atlanta, 43% in Miami, and 25% in Portland, Oregon.

Also: https://academic.oup.com/gerontologist/article-abstract/52/2/255/613902