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How did you handle the professional side of transition? (programming.dev)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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After 5 months, I guess I've fully cracked. Now I'm wondering about updating my professional website, that cesspool LinkedIn, etc.

I'm a Dev (yes, I use Arch) and I used to teach. I guess I'm nervous about having to tell my old students and coworkers.

I’d love to hear strategies, lessons learned, or anything that made the process smoother.

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[–] 5 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I did that and was disappointed that basically no one noticed.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I'm not really sure it'd bother me that much. I mean I know that estrogen won't turn me into a hot 25 year old. Truth be told, the only real difference I care about are the mental effects. I'm really angry all the time, even when there's nothing to be angry about. And I just feel like maybe I can leave that behind and be happy about who I am. I genuinely don't give a shit how other people see me. Perhaps that'll change later, idk.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Yep, that was me too. Angry. The first thing those close to me noticed was mood changes.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    So it helps? Because all consuming rage is just a baseline negative emotional state at this point and I don't have any real happiness in my life. I'm kinda hoping that will change.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    Yes, exactly that.

    Before HRT I felt either empty or angry, and little else. I was quick to anger from any minor frustration, my baseline emotion was very negative, and my sense of humor was worryingly self deprecating. At one point I achieved a lifelong goal and felt nothing, which concerned me greatly.

    Since HRT that has all changed. I have emotional range. I feel things. I can regulate my emotions. I feel things correctly. HRT did that!

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