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Anon shops for diamonds (sh.itjust.works)
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[–] 68 points 1 year ago (22 children)

Never bought her a diamond

Never even bought a ring

Never even got married with a giant ceremony or big event

Been together for over 30 years, bought property and all kinds of things, traveled to over 30 countries. Still not married.

¯_(ツ)_/¯

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  • [–] 14 points 1 year ago* (2 children)

    Same philosophy, but we did get married after we realized the legal protections and tax benefits were worth it. We just saw too much opportunity for our very dissimilar families to pull some nonsense if someone became ill or incapacitated.

    We snuck into a park (that requires reservations for ceremonies) with some friends and that was that.
    The rings are simple and inexpensive, and also rarely worn. We know what we’re about.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Congratulations ... we get along with each others families very well now and there's no worries about anyone pulling anything on us (although there is always a chance that may change) ... but at the same time, everyone is now so freakin old that it almost doesn't matter to anyone any more. We are seriously thinking of getting officially married, simply for the fact that this is the only way to deal with medical rights issues for spouses and partners.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    Yeah. Both of us depart from our families, and didn’t want to be in a position where we could have a parent or sibling try to “pull rank” about some medical decision, or have to worry about assets.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)
    • got married at city hall for like $20
    • got him a synthetic diamond ring for $300 (looks great, large diamond with lots of small decorative diamonds, easily looks 10x or even 100x the price we paid)
    • spent all of the money we would have spent on wedding and ring on a long vacation
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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Congratulations

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Thank you. This was in like 2020 though so it has been a while :D

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Same boat.

    At the end of the day, marriage is a government contract.

    Why the fuck would I want the government involved in my relationship?

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  • [+] 10 points 1 year ago* (1 child)
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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    What you described is exactly why Equal Marriage mattered so much. Thank you for highlighting that. I think, now, there are ways to designate someone in that role (besides marriage)? I'm not 100% sure of that. If not, I'd like to see that done.

    For the original topic, I'm very much of the view that love should not be tied to consumerism of any type. If I were to get married, it would certainly be a courthouse wedding, with no rings or any of that; purely for those legal benefits.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago*

    Congratulations

    In Canada, once you live with a commonlaw partner for a given number of years (I think its two or more years?) ... the law basically identifies you as a married couple in many ways. I think the only things left over is medical rights, do no resuscitate and right to die issues after that.

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  • [–] -3 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    "still haven't made my mind up" aaa relationship 😭🥀💀

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    It was like that for a year or two .... then it turned into 30 ... we wondered for a long time ... but after a while, you both realize, I'm never finding someone like this again in this lifetime.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Why not just get married then?

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (2 children)

    Guess they have nothing to prove to each other, they don't need a piece of paper or someone else to proclaim they are together forever, they already know that.

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