You aren't wrong but also, maybe I'm some kind of out of control woke feminist, but I don't think a man should be expected to let himself die just because the ship he's on is sinking. Yeah children and an accompanying parent first of course, but if you aren't sentencing a child to death or parentlessness yeah, follow the evacuation instructions and live. Hell we should treat you well afterwards because that sounds really traumatic.
Honor culture often demands suffering for stupid reasons. Our culture is too far in the other direction where honorless assholes face no consequences or shame, but we shouldn't be expecting death for the dishonorable.