I feel like it’s pretty closeted in general but I’m out as poly pretty much, I just decided I’d take any risk it presents :3

edit: feel free to ask me any questions about it. I’ve found poly cocktails to be a nice community in my city and I know they have chapters all around

We dunno, we think it could still be a problem in some places for work purposes, but we are publically, as well as relationship anarchists publically too.

Is it getting more common to be publicly poly? I left the city for work and live in the boonies, I feel out of the loop. I feel such a deep pull towards polyamory as someone with a lot of love to share, but idk where to start

Cheaper areas still exist for now. Bought mine on near minimum wage at the time I bought it a few years ago. Living in a fairly large town between 2 medium cities but going to either of them is generally a day out kind of trip.

Soon?

I swear it's the only healthy way to parent in our society.

Anyone wants to join my marriage let me know lol. I give good head but you gotta put in them hours.

If you are lucky, yeah. Poly will become the only way to do it yourselves though.

There is also inheriting.

Poly relationships are going to be the only way to own a house soon.

Hey friend, would you be so kind an translate what you wrote there to english? I sadly dont understand.

I've had success explaining it to the uninitiated by telling them that the only rules for our relationship are those that we have discussed and agreed upon. I usually give them an example or two and make sure I always frame it as my response to their actions. Like "I won't expect you to be monogamous or exclusive unless we've discussed it". Then I like to add that it's less stressful than a typical relationship because we both know exactly where the lines are because we've discussed them. I'll finish the explanation by pointing out that it encourages better communication and that if I were to do something that upset them or made them uncomfortable that they can and should bring it up so we can discuss it.

That frames it in a way that doesn't seem like I want to screw everything with a pulse and have no accountability (because I don't), which is what RA sounds like to the uninformed. I guess if someone else did want that, this approach wouldn't work for them.

Listen wise guy, it isn't conducive to anarchism to play buddy buddies with tankies, the rest of whatever you said is obviously misunderstanding federalism, shit you talk like you are allergic to understand said concept, go look at a network graph or something.

Edit: almost forgot about the "anarcho" capitalist community for a sec, is that also conducive to anarchism you prick?

Are you trying to push this community into irrelevance?

Are you? Why would you advocate to promote a centrally-hosted bigger community than this one, within this one, if not to push this community into irrelevance?

All of these communities are either abandoned, unused, or from lemmygrad, and you suggest we replace existing connections to bigger communities with these?!

Are you suggesting that it’s conducive to anarchy to concentrate power in a centralised place?!

I very much hope you were kidding with that Facebook comment because I can’t understand sarcasm over the web and if you aren’t kidding then you’ve just shown a great lack of understanding of why we’re here on lemmy in the first place.

If you think lemmy is intended for concentrations of centralised power in one place, we indeed have different understandings of why “we” are on Lemmy in the first place.

Indeed a mass migration of people recently left centralised walled-gardens, often due to a single event like a notoriously bad decision by Musk or Zuck. Very few grasp the decentralisation principle and simply want to flock to get away from whatever event triggered them.

But that “we” you speak of is not a collective whole with a single reason. Those of us who were using Lemmy since 2019ish (and GNU social since much earlier) came to build communities from the ground up that decentralise resources and control. Meta, Twitter, Cloudflare (e.g. Lemmy.world), Microsoft, etc are the antithisis of why the fediverse exists.

Ah, good.

Shut up and stop spamming everywhere.

We’re also defederated from them so it’s not even possible unless that has changed and I missed it.

Are you trying to push this community into irrelevance?

All of these communities are either abandoned, unused, or from lemmygrad, and you suggest we replace existing connections to bigger communities with these?!

I'm not even going to get into that one community for "anarcho" capitalists, are you for real?

I very much hope you were kidding with that Facebook comment because I can't understand sarcasm over the web and if you aren't kidding then you've just shown a great lack of understanding of why we're here on lemmy in the first place.

lemmygrad would not be a good fit as they are full of tankies who are violent and thus against the spirit of this place.