[–] 1 point 1 month ago

Ah gotcha. I cant relate to the feeling but I can conceptualize it I think. I fall under demisexual so while I'm highly sexually charged, arousal by a random person takes a lot of work to get to. To clarify further, I'm male, but I have so many turn-offs that people are essentially classified as unsexy by default until I've done heavy vetting (social and psychological conversational prodding to determine a person's place in the metacontextual zeitgeist). Then on top of that I have physical and presentational preferences so finding partners is practically impossible. I got lucky that a Tinder date turned into the best LTR of my life, and a person I couldnt imagine being without now.

This said, I'm very familiar with attraction after vetting, but social signifiers have rarely in my experience told me who a person was. Perhaps I'm more distrustful than you, but I can't imagine getting past my sensors with only a glance. I've learned too many times that people are seldom what you think they are at first glance.

To this extent, are you saying that a bi/pansexual has more physically charged sensors for attraction, and so that conversation is not necessary? To that end, is additional conversation LESS attractive? I ask because I've run into this feature with cis straight women, where my yapping turns them completely off, even if my body was green for them. Not through offence mind you, I notice they just get bored or overwhelmed with the conversation and wanted a spicier encounter.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    You wrote off demi too fast. When you say you find people passing with a good vibe hot, are we saying aroused, or are we saying "Ah, yes, quite the fuckable one, that". Because there's a third option and bi or pan only cover one while demi covers two.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Crime usually comes before punishment. Right now the system is working it's way into figuring out how to deal with this new social dynamic. Like you, I think it's pretty straightforward. We won't solve the core reason for the bullying dynamics though. I think humans that adhere to gendered thinking will be behind on that for a good long while yet.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago

    You're doing a lot of conflating again, so let me pull things apart. First, labor excess value being extracted is again not a function of currency. It's a function of capitalism. In a capitalist system, capital owners are permitted the ability to extract excess from laborers so that they can invest that excess into new ventures. It has nothing to do with value perception. What does have to do with labor perception is how much wealth laborers allow to be extracted from them, which is the whole reason bargaining power is so important in a capitalist system for the labor class.

    On fiat currency, in principle it isn't a terrible idea. What makes the dollar volatile though is that it is a fiat controlled by a single state. The gold standard worked better for the dollar because the value of the dollar would always be in effect controlled by gold supply, but this is something that can be worked out without gold as to avoid gold hoarding. We have modern solutions like crypto that could create an artificial line for the dollar to ride on, but that brings us back to it being easier to just have the dollar represent the buying power of the american market. If you keep that a function of public fiscal policy, it isn't all that dangerous.

    On the Fed, the planning and writing of the bill that established the Fed being a behind closed door meet with the hyper wealthy does not make the Fed a private enterprise. It makes it a public enterprise that was constructed by private interest. Welcome to the home of the free, much of our infrastructure was built by wealthy business owners lobbying congress. That doesnt mean that the Fed can't be reshaped by the American people, it can, but the American public seems to not like taking the effort it takes to consider a bill that would reshape the Fed. Private interest groups do it instead because there is no competition.

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