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[–] 43 points 8 months ago

All's fair in love and war, and working food service on Valentine's day is both.

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  • [–] 104 points 8 months ago (13 children)

    Here you'd get just weird looks for oversharing haha

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  • [–] 97 points 8 months ago (12 children)

    Not really, just gotta be organic about it. ex. They hit you with a "Oh they got you working on Valentines Day? Thats rough." You fire back with the sob story. Easy.

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  • [–] 12 points 8 months ago* (11 children)

    Yes really. There's no way to share that here for people not to think you're oversharing.

    They hit you with a “Oh they got you working on Valentines Day? Thats rough.”

    I'm sorry but they won't lol

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  • [–] 28 points 8 months ago (10 children)

    You never had a stranger hit you with something personal out of the blue? It happens to me routinely. Yesterday I learned that a cashier at the gas station is tired because she moved a few months back and hasn't finished unpacking but was looking forward to the birthday party her husband was throwing her next week.

    Last month I learned a lady had had to move far from her friends and family and hadn't seen her granddaughter in years, but hadn't told anyone because she doesn't have any friends here.

    I just ask questions out of genuine curiosity. Sometimes (probably most of the time, tbh) I get surface level answers, but sometimes people need to talk to someone and I've been told that I "have one of those faces" that makes it easy to open up. Just because you would feel you are over sharing, and maybe culturally where you are these interactions wouldn't happen, doesn't mean they don't happen or that they can't.

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    I get that too. Good listener vibes, as some say.

    I asked a waiter why he looked so tired and he relayed along story of how he and his long distance girl saw each other again and they stayed up all night talking about how to navigate this situation and if they should just breakup instead.

    I asked a dad about his son at a baseball game and he talked the entire game about his boy, and at game end he was like holy shit I have monopolized this conversation. Lol

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  • [–] 8 points 8 months ago (6 children)

    Not a waiter, definitely. It would be major oversharing here, people just don't do that.

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  • [–] 13 points 8 months ago (5 children)

    "Here" being a European country I take it?

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  • [–] 7 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    The europeans are bewildered by the American sport of small talk. They would be so out of their depth just walking down the street when people start smiling and waving at them.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    tbf I'm American and I hate that shit too. I hate when my coworkers do it, I hate when strangers do it. I don't want to hear your lame repetitive take on the weather, we fucking know, we're all in the same fucking weather. Just order your sandwich and leave.

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago

    No. Idk where you are from but that doesn't happen with strangers here. Specially in a transactional relationship like waiter/customer or cashier/customer. Be polite, very sporadic small talk, thank them, they thank you, goodbye. Gone.

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  • [+] -33 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (9 children)
  • [–] 43 points 8 months ago (5 children)

    Don't know why you had to make that sexist. I know male servers who have done the same.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    Yeah but its probably unfortunately more common for women due to society valuing us less, and therefore providing us with less opportunity to move up and make living wages.

    Goes double for trans women. Its a control tactic to keep us reliant on cis men.

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