How bout this one: The dishes are dirty after a meal. After you eat, you stand up from your table to go do the dishes unprompted. As soon as you stand up, someone else asks you "Hey, can you do the dishes while you're up?". Immediately, you are annoyed and become resentful and don't want to do the dishes... that you were on your way to do already. Sound familiar?

Check out Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Could be related

Plus ADHD fucks up ur ability to muster the energy/intention to do tasks, especially ones you don't want to do already. If I am asked to do something I already intended on doing, it saps the energy from me too.

Damn, that's ADHD? I thought it was trauma from controlling parents

Dopamine seeking?

You just described something I’ve always experienced.

Idk what to call it either but I also definitely do that lol

Dang I do that too! I never realised that was adhd related. Like whenever someone comes home and I'm doing something aside from doing something that is "normal" like work or being on my computer I rush back to my chair and pretend like I was never doing it, I don't even know why it's like I don't want people to see me doing nice things for some reason?