Thank you. I am trying to hold on, even when I don't really want to.

The long and short of it is that a certain poster insisted that their gender was 'dragonfucker', and that they fucked the gender of 'dragons'. For obvious reasons not everyone was onboard with this, but the Blahaj admins decided that it wasn't up for discussion. Unfortunately, they decided that what wasn't up for discussion was up to, and including, the very existence of dragons. That's the lore of it.

In an admittedly bitter conversation about the whole debacle several months later on another instance, the top Blahaj admin (who was not involved in the conversation) saw that I still denied the existence of dragons, and decided to permaban me from Blahaj for that terrible crime, notwithstanding that I hadn't even posted on Blahaj since the debacle in any case. That's the personal story.

@daggermoon@lemmy.world since you asked too.

I would also like to know

The "for" part is what makes this a backhanded compliment. It heavily implies prejudice/preconceived notions, because there is no need to compare to the other group. While it might be a compliment directed at the person, it's implicity demeaning to the community you are getting compared to. It's not necessarily a firmly or consciously held believe, but it still shows what they are expecting.

Doesn't it though? "You're pretty X for a Y" assume X people aren't Y naturally. Fill in the blanks for smart : woman :: attractive : trans