when replying that way in any way, on text or actually just saying "cool". my friends say cool a lot and I really don't mind it and my partner says it too but some people have thought it was rude and I had a friend say "that's what I say when I don't give a damn".

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[–] 28 points 1 year ago (11 children)

It depends both on context and on tone. Tone can make it excited or dismissive.

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  • [–] [S] 9 points 1 year ago (9 children)

    what if it's "Cool." over text? it seems fine to me but people have gotten similar responses saying it's passive-aggressive.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    I've heard from Gen Z that ending a text response with a period is passive aggressive. So "cool" may have seemed glib on its own, but the punctuation might be giving an additional, if unintentional, tone

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I’m a millennial and I think that

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    To be fair, I am also a millennial, but most of my friends were surprised when I told them about that correction I received from the younger generation. I guess that says more about my friends than millennials overall lol

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    I'm also a millennial, and I think it depends a lot on rapport as well. If you regularly talk with someone in text form, and consistently use punctuation, it probably doesn't come off as passive aggressive than if you suddenly respond with the trailing period. It also probably makes one-word responses a lot more abrupt.

    I agree with above, replying "Cool!", or "That's cool!" would likely go over much better in that context

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    If it's saying "cool" as an end to the conversation then it's usually pretty rude. You need to show a bit of interest with a quick follow up like "how did you get it?" or "it took you a while?" and then ending the conversation is fine.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago

    When "cool" is clearly an understatement about something negative or is in response to being stonewalled it is rude, otherwise it is chill.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Fine: Friend: We are going to the movies on Friday OK?

    You: Cool.

    Not fine: Girlfriend: I love you from the bottom of my heart and I cherish all of our memories together.

    You: Cool.

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