Put the seat and the lid down before flushing.

I'm a woman and will leave the seat up at work (not at home)

We have unisex toilets and truck drivers use them - they regularly wee all over the toilet seats if left down :(

If you properly close a toilet seat/lid, everyone has to open it before using it, I don't see what the big deal is

Pooping is what unites us

I put the lid down, don't want toilet water splashing all over the place when you flush.

Can people do what they need to do without anybody policing them? Seat up or down who cares?

My brother used to say, if i have to lift it up why shouldn't my wife have to put it down?

I see his point but, i close the lid to flush so i don't have to brush my teeth with a pissy shit particle covered toothbrush.

I only piss in sinks and showers. It's the gentlemanly thing to do.

If you raise it, put it back down when you're done. If you put it down, put it back up when you're done. That seems fair.

Alternatively, if there's a lid, close the lid when you're done. Then everyone is equally "inconvenienced".

But like, if men pee with the seat up, but both men and women poop with the seat down, then statistically the seat is already down more than half of the time. Now if we enforce a policy like this, that would mean more than half of the times someone walks in and needs the seat to be down is in luck, but the rest has to do double the "work". And if someone goes in after someone who would have otherwise left the seat up, they too do double the work, so the seat changes position 4 times instead of once. I think it's much more "just" to simply change the seat whenever you need it and sometimes you will even find it in the position you need it in.

I once jokingly mentioned to my wife that leaving the seat up is just as convenient for me as leaving it down is for her. To which she pointed out that, of the four different permutations of toilet use between us, 3/4 require the seat to be down, so all in all, it makes sense to leave the seat down.

And dammit, I had to marry a logical autistic, didn't I?

So now I always (try to remember to) leave the seat down.

No no no. In public restrooms better to leave the seat up so that when people pee standing up the toilet water droplets don't get on the seat.

I pee standing up in public and know the mess it can cause.

I never understood the whole "you left the toilet seat up" complaint. Never been an issue in my family but have heard "he never puts the seat down" all the time. Is it that much effort to put the toilet seat down when you need to go?

Edit: Always close the toilet seat cover, not just lowering the toilet seat. This is for both men and women.

This assumes that men ever lift the seat. I’d prefer it be left up so that there is at least a chance I can sit on a dry, piss-free seat. Lowering a seat is preferable to the alternative.

Soft close toilet seats should be standard equipment.

Then putting the lid down is a matter of a single light push.