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[–] 214 points 1 year ago (13 children)

When I was a kid, in 7th grade science, I overheard a boy asking a girl out. She rejected him, he wasn't her type. He asked what her type was, she mentioned a guy she was seeing, and casually mentioned he was 22. At the time, I was thinking this poor kid was woefully outmatched and would never have a chance. A few years later, it dawned on me just how fucked up that whole situation was.

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  • [–] 65 points 1 year ago (10 children)

    I remember that sort of shit. The girl I knew got divorced so many times after that.

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  • [–] 42 points 1 year ago (9 children)

    Yeah in my high school, a girl I knew got into serious trouble for trying to bring her 25 year old boyfriend to junior prom, when she was 16. 😩 For some reason, the district allowed it. 😭😭

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    16 is the Age of Consent in most places, that doesn't make it right, but I can only guess the district thought "Well if it's legal..." without thinking if it was appropiate.

    It definitely wasn't and it endangered the other students

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  • [+] -18 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    16 is the Age of Consent in most places, that doesn't make it right, but I can only guess the district thought "Well if it's legal..." without thinking if it was appropiate.

    That’s not how age of consent works you uninformed denizen softening the ground for pedos.

    Educate first, then loud blab on the internet.

    Ref: https://lemmy.world/comment/18382947

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Your reference is your own comment? Shouldn't somewhere down the chain there be a link explaining this? It would be nice for you to be right, but I don't think you are.

    If it were only about activities with other shouldn't be of age people, then it makes no sense. Either they are allowed and it's legal or it's illegal for both of them but neither can be considered criminally responsible because neither can legally consent either.

    There are stories constantly about someone older having relations with someone way too young but the jurisdiction has age of consent to make it ok.

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  • [–] -5 points 1 year ago* (2 children)

    My god, this place is overrun by petulant children who can’t do their own research and are criminally unaware of the laws surrounding this.

    You want a link, here’s a link

    also this

    TLDR; it is immensely complex, varies country by country, but as a general rule of thumb, having sex with a minor whilst you yourself not being a minor will almost everywhere land you in trouble. As it should. ^applies to regular joe without powerful friends in powerful places only.^

    Topic highly unsuited for one line response mediums like this new reddit.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    Why do you start every comment with an insult? Their question was reasonable and they didn't treat you the same. That really doesn't make you sound as smart as you think it does, especially when you're referencing yourself in your original comment, and the comment of your own that you referenced doesn't actually clarify anything, it's just another example of you insulting somebody and telling them that they're wrong.

    Besides, age of consent laws differ in how they work based on what country you are in, and not everyone is from your country. You're expecting people to know shit they're not reasonably expected to know, and you're mad at them about it and being a child about it.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    For example, the age of consent in the US state of Delaware is 18, but it is allowed for teenagers aged 16 and 17 to engage in sexual intercourse as long as the older partner is younger than 30

    16 and 17 is still under the age of consent, but they have a special exception for partners under 30. So the age of consent is still exactly what people think it is

    Circumstances of the relationship

    Generally it still looks like for those jurisdictions the age of consent is pretty much what people think it is, however the bar for consent is much higher. The Pennsylvania example is closest to what you describe, but seems to be that they basically prosecute for some other crime because age of consent is low enough but they have other laws. Guessing it's rooted in some provisions for young marriage but still able to prosecute premarital sex as corrupted morals.

    In short to all these jurisdictions, just raise the damn age of consent instead of having all sorts of weird loopholes that make it sometimes ok for a 45 year old to get with a 14 year old.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    In the US, age of consent varies by state. In most US states the age of consent to sex with someone who is not in a position of authority is 16. Often with a close in age exception. 18 gets used in US media so much because that's what it is in CA and NY, and that's where most media is made.

    18 is also federal age of consent, but that only applies when an incident involves crossing state lines.

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  • [–] 124 points 1 year ago (19 children)

    When I was 14 I got turned down by a friend who proceeded to date a 27 year old man.

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  • [–] 73 points 1 year ago (7 children)
  • [–] 72 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    Be a little nicer to them, they got rejected for some old dude!

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    They deserved it. They should have known to wait 13 years to date a 14 year old. The equation is 1/2 your age +1.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    My wife's sister dated a guy in his 30s when she was 19.

    So much trauma for a decade.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I was groomed by a guy in his 40s when I was 16 to 18. He was also suspected to have sexually abused younger kids. I've been in a relationship with my current partner who's my age for over a decade now. The abuser knew very well how to take advantage of vulnerable girls. And yes. That trauma will stay with me. I still have nightmares. For the first year with my partner I would frequently wake up from these nightmares and be so relieved to be next to my partner to comfort me. I found out very recently that the asshole is still out and about, but got cancer, so there's some karma there.

    I'm sure that if I had better friends and wasn't so lonely and had a better situation at home I wouldn't have fallen for this. These abuser really know how to pick their victims.

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  • [+] -66 points 1 year ago (9 children)
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    [–] 88 points 1 year ago (10 children)

    being a girl is scary cuz the moment you turn 13, creepy men are ogling at you

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  • [–] 75 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    Oh honey, the creeps are sadly ogling you well before 13... Learn to stab.

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  • [–] 47 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    One thing I HATE about military bases. All the E1 soldiers wandering the local high schools looking for girls. Was really sickening

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  • [–] 24 points 1 year ago

    Bro it was such a shit show when I was growing up.

    Just military bros spending their entire military paycheck on a mustang and picking up high school girls.

    Still remember my friend crying/begging for help because military bro didn't get sex and wanted to beat her up. And this dirtbag was going to get shipped with a rifle to some brown country.

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  • [–] 44 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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    Members of Congress, clergymen, the fucking PRESIDENT. What's a boy to do!?

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  • [–] 39 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    In school, when I was 13, one of my friends was "dating" a 19 year old. I vividly remember how cool we all thought this was. Reflecting on it makes me feel sick.

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    [–] 38 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    My husband kicked me out once he realized flashing his money at 19 year olds worked. The teenagers didn’t ask him to stop playing FIFA and walk his dogs.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    What an idiot.

    Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?

    Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.

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  • [–] 28 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    At college, there were 16 and 17 year old girls with boyfriends in their twenties. Even at the time, I thought that was weird.

    At least I never heard about anything younger than that.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Some girl when I was in middle school, 14ish, used to get picked up by some tatted up 20 something, pretty sure he was at least 25 but no idea. We thought he was like an uncle or something. Nope, turns out he was her boyfriend. Pretty sure that guy went to prison for meth related activities.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago

    I know a guy who ended up in bed with a twelve year old. She didn't look twelve and didn't act twelve. He ended up going in to the military to flee. He didn't have to worry because of course this same girl ended up pregnant in less than a year.

    Her story was all too common. She had been abused and trafficked from a very young age and had associated approval through sex. When this all came out her mom and step dad faced no consequences. They went out of their way to try to punish her. She ended up getting court ordered counseling which despite the parents continuing to try to interfere she got better.

    She eventually ended up married to a pretty decent guy and they left for parts unknown a few years later. I don't think she was quite eighteen when they left.

    The scumbag parents are still around. They are considered fine christians in the community. After all they asked god for forgiveness. Not their victim mind you but god, so its all okay.

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  • [–] 27 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    thought i needed a car to get a date. married a date with a car.

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  • [–] 67 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Yeah but they've got the market cornered on Catholic priests, that's gotta count for something.

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  • [–] 46 points 1 year ago

    I was hanging out with this girl my age in high school a lot, we were both 17, I thought it was going well, then some full grown adult said she was pretty at Walmart and I had to move on with my life.

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  • [–] 43 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Don't hang around so many republicans and the competition would thin out.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    While rape culture is huge among Republicans and dating young women is more popular among them, this issue is far more vast and definitely involves men across the political spectrum.

    Until this obsession with youth=beauty and women under 130lbs being the beauty standard changes, this will still be a problem.

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  • [–] 21 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    One of the dudes in my gay group tonight:

    "My momma cleaned hunter's cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean."

    He was talking about a time when he was early teens.

    So it's not just girls who get this treatment! If that makes you feel any more egalitarian.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    β€œMy momma cleaned hunter’s cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean.”

    I'm a bit dense. They were "nice" to each other, or "nice" to him, or they were actually nice looking, or...?

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  • [–] 19 points 1 year ago

    When i was in grade 9 a girl in my class started dating a guy that just graduated. His family was Hella poor but this dude had the nicest of everything cars, clothes etc. He was very obviously a 19 y/o drug dealer dating a 14 y/o tgat couldn't even qualify for a learning permit.

    And everyone was just cool with it. This was in tulsa Oklahoma circa 1999/2000

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  • [–] 50 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    This is what wars are for. Young men slaughter each other while old men bang the young women.

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  • [–] 24 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Wars seem to predate oil by ... a few thousand years.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Doesn't oil just kinda happen in part of Canada?

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago

    As in, at the surface and readily used? Yes and no. Sure, there was some amount of oil at the surface, but it's very low grade and mixed into the soil. This presentation has an image on the first page to give you an idea of what they're starting with. It looks more like asphalt than oil (and is very similar). In fact, this stuff is so difficult to extract that, even though it was known about in the 18th century (by Western civilization), it wasn't mined until 1960.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    You're not wrong, but I would call out a point of clarity, that youth is far more fetishized for women.

    I'm a dude, but as far as I can tell, guys need a bit of luck in the looks category (not the most important thing, but not looking disfigured generally helps), ambition, and success (mainly money). I had terrible luck with women. I'm not the best looking guy out there but I'm certainly not the worst either... And I could find relationships, but it always quickly fell apart. Once I decided to improve upon myself, and go to college in the pursuit of a well paying job, I found that my ambition was generally enough to keep people's attention, romantically.

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  • [–] 18 points 1 year ago

    Still remember my middle school girlfriend brag about cheating on me and fucking guys that were buying her beer. Would have been nice to get authorities involved if I had anyone to talk to and wasn't being neglected and abused at home. Kind of wild to lose hope in people at the age of 12.

    Bad times.

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