When I was a kid, in 7th grade science, I overheard a boy asking a girl out. She rejected him, he wasn't her type. He asked what her type was, she mentioned a guy she was seeing, and casually mentioned he was 22. At the time, I was thinking this poor kid was woefully outmatched and would never have a chance. A few years later, it dawned on me just how fucked up that whole situation was.
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When I was 14 I got turned down by a friend who proceeded to date a 27 year old man.
Be a little nicer to them, they got rejected for some old dude!
Hah. I know likely comedic misunderstanding but, in case it was not clear, the 27-year-old pedo was the gross one.
They deserved it. They should have known to wait 13 years to date a 14 year old. The equation is 1/2 your age +1.
... The formula is 1/2 your age + 7 tho.
So for that 27 year old dating a teenager it would certainly not be okay. 27/2=13.5+7 which i would generously round down to 20 years of appropriate minimum age.
My wife's sister dated a guy in his 30s when she was 19.
So much trauma for a decade.
I was groomed by a guy in his 40s when I was 16 to 18. He was also suspected to have sexually abused younger kids. I've been in a relationship with my current partner who's my age for over a decade now. The abuser knew very well how to take advantage of vulnerable girls. And yes. That trauma will stay with me. I still have nightmares. For the first year with my partner I would frequently wake up from these nightmares and be so relieved to be next to my partner to comfort me. I found out very recently that the asshole is still out and about, but got cancer, so there's some karma there.
I'm sure that if I had better friends and wasn't so lonely and had a better situation at home I wouldn't have fallen for this. These abuser really know how to pick their victims.
Are you seriously slut shaming a 14-year-old who was groomed by a 27-year-old? Using a sexist misconception no less?
That's fucked up
15 years of marriage and four kids later, there's no noticeable difference in vagina clearance. Please stop saying this shit.
β mods pls ban
Been a snitch your whole life ?
being a girl is scary cuz the moment you turn 13, creepy men are ogling at you
Oh honey, the creeps are sadly ogling you well before 13... Learn to stab.
I learned a lot about women wearing ice pick-sized hair pins in their hats during the early 20th century for this very purpose.
Can confirm, had my first sexual encounter when I was 5 and he was 18.
For girls, it isn't the age, it is when they start developing breasts
One thing I HATE about military bases. All the E1 soldiers wandering the local high schools looking for girls. Was really sickening
Bro it was such a shit show when I was growing up.
Just military bros spending their entire military paycheck on a mustang and picking up high school girls.
Still remember my friend crying/begging for help because military bro didn't get sex and wanted to beat her up. And this dirtbag was going to get shipped with a rifle to some brown country.
Members of Congress, clergymen, the fucking PRESIDENT. What's a boy to do!?
In school, when I was 13, one of my friends was "dating" a 19 year old. I vividly remember how cool we all thought this was. Reflecting on it makes me feel sick.
My husband kicked me out once he realized flashing his money at 19 year olds worked. The teenagers didnβt ask him to stop playing FIFA and walk his dogs.
What an idiot.
Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?
Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.
At college, there were 16 and 17 year old girls with boyfriends in their twenties. Even at the time, I thought that was weird.
At least I never heard about anything younger than that.
Some girl when I was in middle school, 14ish, used to get picked up by some tatted up 20 something, pretty sure he was at least 25 but no idea. We thought he was like an uncle or something. Nope, turns out he was her boyfriend. Pretty sure that guy went to prison for meth related activities.
Pretty sure that guy went to prison for math related activities.
I need to sleep
That's legal in most states, but not weird in none of them.
I know a guy who ended up in bed with a twelve year old. She didn't look twelve and didn't act twelve. He ended up going in to the military to flee. He didn't have to worry because of course this same girl ended up pregnant in less than a year.
Her story was all too common. She had been abused and trafficked from a very young age and had associated approval through sex. When this all came out her mom and step dad faced no consequences. They went out of their way to try to punish her. She ended up getting court ordered counseling which despite the parents continuing to try to interfere she got better.
She eventually ended up married to a pretty decent guy and they left for parts unknown a few years later. I don't think she was quite eighteen when they left.
The scumbag parents are still around. They are considered fine christians in the community. After all they asked god for forgiveness. Not their victim mind you but god, so its all okay.
thought i needed a car to get a date. married a date with a car.
Yeah but they've got the market cornered on Catholic priests, that's gotta count for something.
I was hanging out with this girl my age in high school a lot, we were both 17, I thought it was going well, then some full grown adult said she was pretty at Walmart and I had to move on with my life.
Don't hang around so many republicans and the competition would thin out.
It's hard for 13 year olds to emigrate.
While rape culture is huge among Republicans and dating young women is more popular among them, this issue is far more vast and definitely involves men across the political spectrum.
Until this obsession with youth=beauty and women under 130lbs being the beauty standard changes, this will still be a problem.
One of the dudes in my gay group tonight:
"My momma cleaned hunter's cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean."
He was talking about a time when he was early teens.
So it's not just girls who get this treatment! If that makes you feel any more egalitarian.
βMy momma cleaned hunterβs cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean.β
I'm a bit dense. They were "nice" to each other, or "nice" to him, or they were actually nice looking, or...?
They would have sex with him.
Ah okay -- as in, he seemed to like it(?) but he was also way too young for it to have been having it
When i was in grade 9 a girl in my class started dating a guy that just graduated. His family was Hella poor but this dude had the nicest of everything cars, clothes etc. He was very obviously a 19 y/o drug dealer dating a 14 y/o tgat couldn't even qualify for a learning permit.
And everyone was just cool with it. This was in tulsa Oklahoma circa 1999/2000
This is what wars are for. Young men slaughter each other while old men bang the young women.
I thought wars were for oil?
Wars seem to predate oil by ... a few thousand years.
Doesn't oil just kinda happen in part of Canada?
As in, at the surface and readily used? Yes and no. Sure, there was some amount of oil at the surface, but it's very low grade and mixed into the soil. This presentation has an image on the first page to give you an idea of what they're starting with. It looks more like asphalt than oil (and is very similar). In fact, this stuff is so difficult to extract that, even though it was known about in the 18th century (by Western civilization), it wasn't mined until 1960.
You're not wrong, but I would call out a point of clarity, that youth is far more fetishized for women.
I'm a dude, but as far as I can tell, guys need a bit of luck in the looks category (not the most important thing, but not looking disfigured generally helps), ambition, and success (mainly money). I had terrible luck with women. I'm not the best looking guy out there but I'm certainly not the worst either... And I could find relationships, but it always quickly fell apart. Once I decided to improve upon myself, and go to college in the pursuit of a well paying job, I found that my ambition was generally enough to keep people's attention, romantically.
Still remember my middle school girlfriend brag about cheating on me and fucking guys that were buying her beer. Would have been nice to get authorities involved if I had anyone to talk to and wasn't being neglected and abused at home. Kind of wild to lose hope in people at the age of 12.
Bad times.


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