Did you just... critisise the critisism?

Apt comparison.

I think we're closer to asking someone who can't taste to judge food sometimes.

In your example, you would be taking criticism of your steak from someone who would tell you to serve it with ketchup. If you wouldn't serve your steak with ketchup, then you don't need to be concerned that they don't like your steak. Sometimes people are just incompatible.

Where's this quote from?

I'm pretty good at absorbing zingers like this. I find that it's not big revelations that we need, but something tangible we can build off of. This is something like that - it's profound and simple at the same time. A lot of truth packed into one line. You can work with that.

A lot of folks around here have social anxiety and things like rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It makes us take everything to heart a little too much.

I think you’re looking at it the wrong way here. I quit going to my dad for advice at a young age because he was a narcissistic shithead. I still let his criticism have an effect on me. Once I stopped caring what he thought, my life got better because I had less anxiety attacks, and felt a lot better about who I am.

It’s about picking who actually has your best interest in mind when finding who can criticize you.

I disagree

It's a possible way to develop get echo chambers - the trick is being open to listening to both criticism and advice rather than taking only one of them.

I was just about to say something like that

The point is that you need to figure out which advice and criticism is useful. You shouldn't dismiss everything but you shouldn't accept everything either.

In my interpretation, this is not about "I know better than everyone else" but about "That person has hurt me so much in the past. Maybe I should not take their criticism to heart anymore."

Get better friends??

Yeah there's a fine line between being discerning and ignoring people giving you good advice because you're too egotistical to believe anyone could give you advice.

but, but... I don't know you and wouldn't go to you for advice!

You're not my mom!

done.

But without the example responses included, how will we know how to react to the content???

Surely that follows into the same point? You would go to then for mechanical advice, and should be receptive to their criticisms within that area, but less so for their medical advice.

I would seek a mechanic for car advice

Except, hear me out, imagine they are a trusted mechanic. So if they say "hey, I'm not a doctor. But the mole I had that looked like that turned out to be cancer" - you might schedule with a dermatologist.

What if I would, but I don’t like their advice?

If you only do what they advise when it's what you would have done anyway, that's not taking advice, it's just hearing confirmation. The idea is not to let people's negativity mean anything to you unless their positivity does.

Would you rather I chose violence?