Why do we need a third transfem comm? In the end it does not matter super much, because one can just join all three, but I do find it a bit odd that this one appeared.

Also, it says "Transfemmes only, if you are not MTF your post or comment will be removed."

How do you actually define "Transfemme"? "MTF" is kind of clear, but if you identify as something else than transfemme but are "mtf", are you not allowed to comment here?

I am a little worried about the idea of gatekeeping who is "trans enough" to post in this comm. Also, transmascs can have a lot of useful input to give us. Why prohibit them from even commenting?

And then, of course, the term "mtf" is kind of loaded and borderline transmedicalist. At least I have never been male, even if for a long time I thought I was.

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Fair questions!

As far as I can tell the other comms have a loose moderation policy and this one is intended to be very strict, along the lines of the womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone comm without input from non transfemmes.

This comm functions as well as part of a local (to me) community along with some other comms I recently started but I see no reason not to open them to federation beyond our local geographic borders at all. Posts in here are mirrored to a petgirl bbs server and comments/replies there get federated back here through regular piefed accounts, a bridge if you will.

I’m happy to let anyone in good faith post or comment if they identify as transfemme, this is the first I have heard MTF called out as trans med but I see your point maybe that’s why I didn’t make a /mtf. ‘amab’ doesn’t really encapsulate the challenges of trying to present and be feminine (whatever that means to a woman) for me so here we are.

Gatekeeping is intentional (as you noted there are other comms for allies), transfemme is subjective, transmascs are free to make their own comm.

I hope that clears it up, I’ll try to distill this down for the sidebar thank you for the questions! Pinning it in the meantime

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