I'm of course over thinking this, but the final "effort" that was made from my narcissist was couples counseling via the Gottman method. I agreed, and went in fully participating, but I found that even after 4 to 5 joint sessions, and individual 2 hour sessions, that the system failed to identify what was happening. The first active work pur therapist had us do was to try to rekindle the "friendship" between us. Not sure how you expect me to do that when the other person lies all the time...

Anyway, is anyone else familiar with it? Any success? It felt to me like its not suited to address narcissistic abuse.