The number of goofy shit I witnessed and at times was subjected to as well because I'm white, yeah. People acted like all that shit on social media never happened irl, but in very specific circles, it 100% did.
That said, I fully agree with you that things flipped when trump got into office the second time.
I just can't wait for a timeline where it doesn't have to flip-flop between two extremes and we can just coexist. Call me naive, but I do believe that things will eventually even themselves out and we can take the good developments from the 2010s and apply them in a less extreme way moving forward. Whatever positive we will be able to find from this second round of Trump, I hope we can apply that too. Mainly how not to run a country and how not to handle geopolitics.
It will probably take me a few decades before I will forgive America for allowing a president to threaten to annex part og my country's territory as well as intimidating and belittling Zelenskyj on world wide TV.