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‘Why didn’t you tell me?’: the Australian push to have all adopted people told their full history and identity (www.theguardian.com)
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[–] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (9 children)

Holy shit just landing this on people apropos of nothing is the worst idea imaginable.

How the fuck can you go "finding out at an older age i was adopted smashed my life" and immediately think "Lets campaign to do it to everyone else"

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    My half sister didnt know her step father wasnt her real father. She found out when she was 19 because another half sister of ours (my father got around) found her on Facebook.

    It shattered her.

    I was told when I was 5 years old by my mom I was adopted by my step father. She did it in a shitty way, (during their messy kids in the middle divorce) but at least she was honest.

    Definitely prefer the way I found out, to the way my sister did. Finding out young, I think it was easier for me to adapt, and have support. My sister still doesn't have a great relationship with her mom and step father, and it's been some years.

    Kids don't like it when their parents lie to them, who knew.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (2 children)

    We're not dealing with kids though, these nutters want every damned adult unaware of their adoption status to have their worlds mandatorily blown apart.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    Idk, I've 3 siblings not raised by this man, and we all would rather know, than not. Honesty, I feel, is important in human relationships.

    I'd be interested to hear from someone who wishes they didnt ever find out they were adopted. Im sure people like that exist.

    Should the government get involved? I personally don't think they should, but, an interesting social concept to discuss.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago*

    This isn't a thought experiment , these are people's lives

    Psychologists are pointing out the massive damage this would cause just dumping on people as adults without their request "Hey, you're adopted" and for...what, exactly?

    Their recommendations to build a framework to make it easier for people who want to know to find out is far saner.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    The upset stems from being lied to all that time

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

    of course. so we should hurt them without their permission, consent or involvement. Why, exactly?

    edit: Because I'm not sure you've actually read the article: The scenario here is that these idiots want to have an official government notification sent to every adult currently aware of their adoption status saying "You're adopted"

    literally. Among its 39 recommendations, Broken Bonds, Fractured Lives recommended the WA government notifies all adult adopted persons not already aware of their adopted status. A system of automatic notification would be the first of its kind in Australia.

    the timeline of the forced adoption process they're talking about is 1940's to 1980, mostly the former So we're talking about absolutely destroying a friggin' 60, 70, 80 year olds entire sense of self for...what, exactly?

    This is cruelty on a mindboggling scale. And you persist in defending it when there's literally alternatives being proposed right there.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I don't think obscuring the truth because people will react badly to it is a worthwhile endeavor. How people choose to react to the truth is up to them, they deserve it regardless. What these people are feeling is the emotional culmination of Australia's horrific history known as "the stolen generation." We would all be happier to forget it. we shouldn't though.

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