Encouraging people to be safe and care about their privacy on the internet is not victim blaming.

I'm sure their privacy policy gave the standard promises about storing their private data in a secure way, which _they did not do. _

This is what people want to warn others of. The developers of Tea are hardly the only offenders. Definitely not an example of victim blaming.

In the current environment, at-risk people (women, immigrants, etc) who might have “at-risk” activities (abortion, immigration, etc) don’t have the luxury of relying on a privacy policy. I am not blaming them, I am simply stating how it must be if they are to avoid adverse actions.

This particular instance involved poorly secured data; what happens when warrantless demands are made by the government?

The Tea debacle proves that sensitive data cannot be trusted once out of your hands.

I'm sure their privacy policy gave the standard promises about storing their private data in a secure way, which they did not do.

Their ToS can be found here. Section G of their Limitation of Liability tries to shield them from liability against data breaches. But if they were criminally negligent, the ToS won’t protect them. The Data Protection section basically just says “check our Privacy Policy for info on what we collect”, which is pretty standard fare for a ToS.

The Security section of their Privacy Policy is also extremely boilerplate. Here’s the entire thing:

Security of Your Personal Information
The security of your Personal Information is important to us. When you enter sensitive information (such as credit card number) on our Services, we encrypt that information using secure socket layer technology (SSL).Tea Dating Advice takes reasonable security measures to protect your Personal Information to prevent loss, misuse, unauthorized access, disclosure, alteration, and destruction. Please be aware, however, that despite our efforts, no security measures are impenetrable.If you use a password on the Services, you are responsible for keeping it confidential. Do not share it with any other person. If you believe your password has been misused, please notify us immediately.

This one particular sentence may end up burning them though:

Tea Dating Advice takes reasonable security measures to protect your Personal Information to prevent loss, misuse, unauthorized access, disclosure, alteration, and destruction.

I think most people (and the courts) would agree that putting a password on your database is a reasonable security measure that would be expected per this Privacy Policy. Especially since their next sentence goes on to elucidate that users should keep their passwords confidential.