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As a 40's guy, managing friendships sucks. (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 day ago by funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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Organized a birthday party, hired a room, ordered food and drinks and decorations, messaged my friends, mentioned I needed rsvps to book all of this. People confirmed.

Then I'm in an email thread about another event (a minor, unpaid, community event for artists - think like, an open mic), and several people replied saying "sure, I can make that!" It's a clash with my birthday party and they haven't messaged me about it.

Like it's just a birthday party, I know. But I'm feeling sore about it.

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[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 1 point 1 day ago

I an a social person, between going to watch a movie I want to watch and something else I care less about, I will chose the option with my friends.

Sure, but that isn't the choice being discussed. If there were a plethora of events with friends available, OP's current situation likely wouldn't exist.

I usually try to secure one/two friends’ attendance

As you get older, securing attendance can be impossible, which brings us back to change the personal expectation that no one will show up and we are each comfortable doing an activity on our own.

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