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How do I stop envying prettier women? (lemmy.world)
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I honestly hate myself for still feeling this way at 23. Whenever I’m out, I always feel like the ugliest girl in the room, and it literally makes me feel completely worthless. It sucks watching how nicely everyone treats beautiful women. Nobody ever says anything mean to them. Guys are always looking out for them, and other girls always have their back. They get this pass in life that I’ve never had. No one has ever helped or protected me except my parents.I’ve learned to just rely on myself, because my parents won't be around forever and nobody else gives a damn about me. Maybe this is how it should be.

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[–] 18 points 1 day ago (8 children)

I'd talk to a therapist first.

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  • [–] [S] 0 points 1 day ago (7 children)

    will a therapist lick my vagina? I’m so fed up with all this "go see a therapist" advice, if I actually had the option to see a therapist, I wouldn’t be making posts like this.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 day ago*

    making posts like this won't get your vagina licked either.

    but you could also make negative comparisons. plenty of people don't have support parents like you do. would you rather be pretty and have parents who treat you like shit?

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  • [–] 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    Well for 1) that would be a serious medical malpractice lawsuit

    and 2) assuming that you are attracted to men, over 3/4 of straight men are willing to perform oral sex on women and over 1/6 of them are really into it.

    So if that were your actual goal, it would take less than 3 minutes on any dating app to arrange that.

    But sex is not going to fix any underlying psychological issues and the varieties of sex that would be healthy would focus more on mutual goals and shared caring for each other.

    Which again is readily available to all genders if one is willing to actually pursue it.

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  • [–] [S] -3 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    on dating apps only old men messaged me.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 day ago

    Then it sounds like you just need to figure out which one of your current pool of potential partners that you want to have address your wants/needs and figure out which of his wants/needs that you are going to need to address.

    Or you can search for different pools of potential partners and see if that better meets your criteria.

    But if you don’t love yourself, it is very unlikely that any potential partner can figure out how to properly love you.

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  • [–] 4 points 22 hours ago

    Listen... I get the frustration, but you really do need to talk out your frustrations in a healthy and safe environment. I've been there, it sucks but it gets easier.

    Lots of us like licking vagina, but oral cums after healing and you need healing. Bandaiding your issues with orgasms is patchwork at best.

    There are plenty of online providers. If you're in a sane country with good mental health care, take advantage of it. If you're not, see what programs are available to you. Until then I hope you don't jump on someone cooch first before taking care of your mental.

    I'm sure you're a nice person, probably not as ugly as you think. So please, actually get some help. It worked for me, and I'm hoping it'll work for you.

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