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[–] 5 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

The fact itself shouldn’t.

Not being open about yourself till just after marriage is what’s bothering.

Granted marriage culture has changed alot but surely the idea is still to unite with someone for hopefully the rest of their life.

If one has reservations and arent comfortable to be open about things that is valid but then work on that before devoting yourself to another.

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  • [–] 3 points 17 hours ago* (1 child)

    You make it sound easy, it's often something you are not able to understand easly you cannot just "work on that before devoting yourself" if you do not know about you being that in principle. Also, talking about is often harder than it seems (especially because bisexuals are also very judged in the LGBT community itself), i have some bisexual friends and, oh man how many times i heard them not being sure anymore if they were actually bisexual or not, some even thought they were pretending (they were not)

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  • [–] 2 points 16 hours ago

    Of course, it’s not easy, but so is marriage.

    i have a theory that actually bisexuality is the default for mammals and heterosexual relationships a common general preference. I get its confusing for some but what depends is how they personaly perceive their own attractions.

    If they weren’t sure and over many years they started to question their own sexuality its a different story but thats not this one.

    What changed in a honeymoons worth of time to go from “not questioning their sexuality” to “perceiving themselves as bisexual”

    Let me put it this way, if my partner felt uncomfortable telling me something they struggle with. Than i would perceive that as a personal failure. Because trusting eachother to tackle life together is the whole point of the ceremony.

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