You are missing the fact that using bitch negativrly affects all women just as the nword would negatively effect all poc. I told you to swap the word not to point out that they are the same as i said but to try to explain this simple fact. Using genderd derogetory language hurts that gender group(mainly women) just the same as using racltiolized derogetory language hurts the race it aimed at(mainly poc) i really dont think this is that hard to get :)