It's more or less spot on, from what I've seen, and it makes perfect sense. You don't get a system to last centuries without making it thoroughly self-reinforcing. And it's precisely what makes the outside perspectives valuable: it's hard for a fish to see water unless you take it out of it. Otherwise you just end up turning "boys will be boys" into "yes all men".

I’m a lesbian who never dated men

And yet your insight is better than that of most of the other people posting here, who are probably straight men. Who'd have thought that being a woman and loving women might confer someone with understanding of women? I respect the Sisterhood, as I do anyone strong enough to swim against the current in pursuit of their own integrity and joy.

which includes encouraging women to be open about desires and to make moves

The first time a women assertively made a move on me, when I was about 20, I was initially freaked out, but went along with it (which turned out to be a good choice). I'd accumulated that much gender-role stereotyping up to that point in my short life. After that, such experiences were still the exception rather than the rule, but I was more confident in my responses (which didn't always mean I said yes-- someone obviously drunk could well have morning-after regrets, and I didn't want to be part of those).