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The complete and total inapplicability of most ADHD advice (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 4 days ago by to c/autism@lemmy.world
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Reading the web and watching the YouTube's yields a plethora of little attention hacks that apparently really help people with their ADHD, but leave me feeling completely alienated because absolutely none of them work for me. In fact, I just don't even implement them, just sort of eye them suspisciously from a distance.

It feels a little reminscent of the advice I'd get for depression in that the bulk of advice seems targetted towards people with less severe forms, and both writers and readers can say, "Wow! Thanks! This really worked for me!"

The feeling that I had earlier that, "OK, now I have a diagnosis, I can start treating the problem" is evaporating away I'm left with a despair that comes from having a version of ADHD that is seemingly not treatable and not work-aroundable and is actually and irrevocably debilitating.

Getting an eval in a week

Edit: If anyone has resources for severe ADHD instead of this Stephen Covery organizational bullshit, please drop it in the comments.

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[–] 9 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Ugh, I hate that stupid Pop-Sci flavored "advice" too. Way too often it comes across as if the person giving it has absolutely no idea what ADHD is about and just spits something out that sounds about right to them.

As for resources, Dr Russell Barkley is pretty much the only source I respect. Especially this video: https://youtu.be/_tpB-B8BXk0
A point in there that I actually found really insightful is that when you have ADHD, you don't just struggle with delayed gratification but also with delayed punishment. So situations like you fucking up with time management and your friends just silently don't invite you somewhere a couple weeks later won't have any learning effect. So taking more accountability than normal and asking to be corrected right away might actually be the better path

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  • [–] [S] 5 points 4 days ago

    I think the mechanism is that most people with any condition are not going to have it severely, so most of the bandwidth is gonna be filled with bandaid patches that work minimally with the needs of the more extreme ends being completely unaddressed/unfindable.

    Thanks for that link!

    Also, friends?

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