You... use Discord for this stuff? Communities around interests? I wouldn't have thought to use it for that. I only use it to comm with my buddies while we play games. 🤷♂️
getting people you know to switch to something different or more privacy respecting isn't always the easiest. Believe me, I've tried.
I feel you. I just told my bros I'm not using Discord, so if they want to talk it's either Steam voice chat or Fluxer. Thankfully they jumped on board. (Very difficult to play Rocket League well at higher levels without voice comms.)