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I don't know what I'll do with my life (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 days ago by braindead_hottie@lemmy.world to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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Hi.

I'm M18. I've been rotting in my room for an entire year after high school ended. My parents want me to go to college but I can't make myself focus on studying no matter how much effort I put into it.

I don't know what degree I want, and I don't know if I even want to do anything at all. I've been battling with depression since 12 and I just can't see a path forward. My mind keeps making excuses for why I shouldn't do things, even though I know for sure that I should be pulling my shit together ASAP. My parents can't afford to have me being a dead weight forever, and I know I'm wasting my time, BUT I JUST CAN'T MAKE MYSELF DO ANYTHING

I'm autistic and have a bunch of sensibilities. I've tried finding jobs around me (rural Brazil) but most of them are manual work and I'm not entirely suited for that stuff (sorry if it sounds like I'm making excuses). I'm still looking but so far I've had no luck.

I'm studying the possibility of moving out to live with my dad somewhere else, but so far that's not happening.

TL;DR: common post-high-school panic

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[–] gAlienLifeform@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Figuring out what you for sure want to do with the entire rest of your life is nearly impossible and probably just going to stress you out. Try to figure out where you think you might enjoy being a year from now (or even a few months or weeks from now), and then figure out what you can do to get there. If it turns out you don't like it once you do get there, start thinking about where else you might like to be and try to get there.

Life is very long and there's no final answers or figuring things out permanently, there will always be bad days and good days, new problems and new solutions. Don't let the tiny facet of time you're currently perceiving overwhelm everything else.

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