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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (10 children)

Your complaining about the advice to that question. I actually wanted to know what you thought they should do.

I've been through that age of parenting. That's the age where those discussions should start. If you don't have them, then the child will fill in the gaps best they can. Their conclusions can vary wildly from what we would call reasonable, when that happens.

I taught them that they were allowed to block and to push the other child away, if they didn't stop. They were then expected to immediately get an adult involved. Punching and kicking weren't allowed.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works [S] -1 points 6 days ago (8 children)

You’re acting like I’m not a parent as well lol

I’m not taking the bait. 4-5 year olds are very capable of learning conflict resolution that doesn’t involve hitting back to regain pride.

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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (7 children)

So what did you teach them?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works [S] -1 points 6 days ago (6 children)

4-5 year olds are very capable of learning conflict resolution

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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (5 children)

And how does that look when another child is trying to hit them?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works [S] 1 point 6 days ago (4 children)

Time outs, apologies, talking about treating others like you want to be treated, consistency and patience.

I thought you were a parent? You don't know what teaching children conflict resolution looks like?

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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (3 children)

You seem to be doging the point of the question. That's how you stop them hitting unprovoked, or bullying etc. What if it's the other way around? They are the victim of it, not the instigator.

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[–] SarahValentine@pawb.social -1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

What if it’s the other way around? They are the victim of it, not the instigator.

I certainly won't teach them to create a new victim out of some self-righteous sense of retributive justice.

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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (1 child)

Neither would I. That's obviously stupid.

However, you still didn't answer the core question. What would you teach them?

I'm beginning to suspect you don't actually have a good answer. You just wanted something to be outraged at.

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[–] SarahValentine@pawb.social 2 points 6 days ago

I'm not Velma. But thanks for the assurance that you're not paying any attention to the discussion, just being abrasive and lashing out. I wonder who taught you that.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works [S] -1 points 6 days ago

Your complaining

You're*

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[–] moonshadow@sh.itjust.works 1 point 6 days ago

Got enough already, huh?