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Lemmy has a sexism problem (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 week ago by velma@sh.itjust.works to c/feminism@lemmy.world

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I couldn't believe my eyes seeing this advice to teach young boys to hit girls so as to restore the boys' self esteem and pride.

This is the kind of toxic belief that shouldn't be allowed to proliferate here and yet is embraced with open arms by other users.

That boys can only regain their pride and self esteem by hitting girls leads directly to more violence against women and girls.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works [S] -1 points 1 week ago (8 children)

You’re acting like I’m not a parent as well lol

I’m not taking the bait. 4-5 year olds are very capable of learning conflict resolution that doesn’t involve hitting back to regain pride.

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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (7 children)

So what did you teach them?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works [S] -1 points 1 week ago (6 children)

4-5 year olds are very capable of learning conflict resolution

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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (5 children)

And how does that look when another child is trying to hit them?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works [S] 1 point 1 week ago (4 children)

Time outs, apologies, talking about treating others like you want to be treated, consistency and patience.

I thought you were a parent? You don't know what teaching children conflict resolution looks like?

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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (3 children)

You seem to be doging the point of the question. That's how you stop them hitting unprovoked, or bullying etc. What if it's the other way around? They are the victim of it, not the instigator.

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[–] SarahValentine@pawb.social -1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

What if it’s the other way around? They are the victim of it, not the instigator.

I certainly won't teach them to create a new victim out of some self-righteous sense of retributive justice.

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[–] cynar@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (1 child)

Neither would I. That's obviously stupid.

However, you still didn't answer the core question. What would you teach them?

I'm beginning to suspect you don't actually have a good answer. You just wanted something to be outraged at.

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[–] SarahValentine@pawb.social 2 points 1 week ago

I'm not Velma. But thanks for the assurance that you're not paying any attention to the discussion, just being abrasive and lashing out. I wonder who taught you that.

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