That sounds good and I was hopeful, and I got their social media and phone number, but I've only got one text back in three days. They seem like they already have a group of friends from the parts of a conversation I overheard while I was sitting beside them. They know I'm trans and dealing with serious shit, but they only seemed to express small sympathies like "that's crazy. wow." I'm guessing now on whether I fucked up the interaction or if they knew about my past through other people. I know they're busy with their own lives, but three days of being left without replies (and I'm not being weird, istg) is kind of insulting given that they helped me add them to my contacts and friend one of them on discord.

I just cannot relate to mentally healthy neurotypicals, they have like alien brains to me, their way of speaking and acting just seems cold and unbothered, like I will never get to actually know these people even if I spent years with them. These people really did give off vibes of the type who like to discuss other people's drama, but have too few problems to ever become involved in things like that themselves. I have a funny feeling if I ask them for support all they would offer would be advice.

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[–] 4 points 1 week ago (7 children)

i struggle to connect with others. in my mind, i do the sorts of things a friend would do, but often do not see a response in kind. i feel hurt sometimes and sometimes i even want to lash out. then i remember that there are two sides to every relationship and it would be very odd if we both felt the same way. i assess who it's worth hanging onto and who isn't and if they are i give them space and if they aren't i let them go. in either case how they act or react has nothing to do with me.

i think it's also very important to remember that we really can't know what the other person is thinking. i like to use the bob wiley method for relationships:

you know, i treat people as if they were a telephone. if i meet somebody that i don't think likes me, i say to myself, 'bob, this one's just temporarily out of order. don't break the connection, just hang up and try again!'

anyway, i hope y'all can be friends and if you can't i hope you find others. i hope this helps and best of luck!

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 1 week ago (6 children)

    I've never found any others in this city.

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    that really sucks. do you have opportunities to meet people outside your city?

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    if there's one thing i know about people it's that they tend to move around. no telling who might come into your life. and maybe the girls you met will come around. signals can get crossed and sometimes people just need space for any variety of reasons.

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