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R/trans is a fucking mess (lemmy.world)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Not me, but if you’ve been following the drama, they removed this post about the unique issues we face as “divisive.”

It fucking sucks. There’s been a lot of discussion in other trans masc spaces about “transandrophobia” and this seems to absolutely demonstrate it. We aren’t treated seriously in spaces that should be welcoming for us.

People assume “trans” means trans woman. Spaces for trans people are often for trans women. Jamison Green wrote a while back about us not really having our own community, decades ago, and it still feels true today.

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[–] [S] 8 points 1 year ago (1 child)

It being “easier” for us to pass is often used to justify treating us like shit. It’s assumed by many other LGBT people that you transition and magically get treated as a cis man by society.

Like yeah, at the store the cashier treats me as a guy. I don’t get cat called, I don’t get harassed in public.

But if I go to the doctor? What about how my family treats me? What about what happens when I’m in a “safe” space and disclose?

And it’s not always easier to pass for everyone. You can end up in still being read as female, TERFs and transphobes absolutely love mocking the way that our voices don’t always conform to masculine expectations.

The double fucking bind is that we aren’t “queer” enough to be welcomed by other queer people, but we are still too queer to be welcome in society. We are fucking invisible.

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