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Massive problem with how this community deals with online sexual conduct. [Meta] (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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I have seen a post that got 15 upvotes that was advertising online sex and asking for people to DM them. I am confident that the moderators will remove it. However, I am disturbed that most of the comments replying to it believed nothing was wrong and actually requested to exchange DMs with this person.

A while ago I saw a post about someone in an online relationship with another person saying they meet over a kink discord server and a majority of the replies were encouraging them and this relationship instead of concern.

After this latest thing I can't take it anymore. I should have reached my limit after the first thing and I can name several other red flags, but I realized only now that I was becoming accustomed to it.

If a significant portion of this community cannot practice basic cyber safety, especially around sex, then I think this is an unsafe place that creates an environment of encouragement around unsafe online sexual conduct.

This is supposed to be a transfem community and transfems are a minority group especially susceptible to sexual cyber abuse. Nobody here should tolerate the encouragement of unsafe online conduct or engage in it.

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[–] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 child)

Hey you probably are talking about my post in part. I have not met this person via a dc server.

I am doing opsec and I am also doing background checks. There will always be risks and ppl should inform themselves before diving. I did that mistake twice and sadly paid for it, but those situation had been entirely offline as well.

The worst thing that could happen is me getting blackmailed sending naughty messages between 2 consenting adults. And to be quite honest I do not care. I stand behind my sexuality anf if someone were to try to embaress myself with what I like IN PRIVATE all I'd have to say is:"why do you care about my private life oh so much"

I can emphasize with your worry and see that these posts can trigger people when they have experienced sexual violence. I marked my post nsfw for obvious reasons but a policy like we have with [vent] posts could maybe help with that

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  • [–] [S] 0 points 1 week ago

    That's not the worst thing that can happen. The worst thing looks like going further in those conversations than you'd want to and then the other person gets comfortable with immediately texting you with sexual comments with less and less asking, realizing they're weirdly attached to you and their insistence makes it difficult to say no because you're afraid of losing them, then you eventually start routinely saying things you don't want to and getting into things you don't want to do.

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