Yeah this is well written. This should have been my post. I was kind of emotionally reacting to things I've seen, I'm sorry if it caused issues. I agree with this analysis.
that validation as sexual women is too relieving to discard out of hand, and our education on sexual violence and capacity to give consent under these conditions results in a large number of those young trans women being victimized without even understanding that they are experiencing sexual violence.
This happened to me, exactly as described, so when I see it mirrored in other people I kind of lose it. I made the mistake of thinking that other queer people are safe and that I could throw caution to the wind around them. It's just not true. The danger level is how vulnerable you are to being manipulated and taken advantage of, not the identity of the other person/people. Users here not being safe with how they interact with others scares me badly.