Objectively not paedophilic, and only *possibly sus. It all depends on mental and emotional maturity. Only after a certain age of course, an undeveloped brain isn't going to be able to understand how mature they are, so any notion of maturity would be from an outside influence and it would be inherently unethical to attribute that to the childs actual maturity and try to start a relationship. However, after a certain age you're likely going to be mature enough to make your own decisions, and for most people this ends up being around 18. That is to say, I've met people much older who I don't think should be allowed to make their own decisions, for the sake of themselves and others. However, I have also met younger people(still referring to over 18 though) much more mature and mentally stable than most others I've encountered. All this to say, if they're both competent adults then stfu and mind your own business.

In the 90s no one would have so much as blinked at that difference. Times sure have changed for the pruder.

I accidentally dated a 19yo when I was 29... She told me she was 25, everything pointed towards that being true (she had lived away from her parents for several years, had a full time job, looked the part, on a surface level acted the part etc.)

Yes, I ended the relationship (while she tried to twist it around to her being the one who is ending it, which is childish) when I found out.

I'm now very keen on getting factual age with proof and generally go for same age or older than me. Never again, I felt so fucking disgusting.