Is the suggestion that everyone just loudly insists upon their every whim?

No.

Obviously there are extremes of this that cause people to silence and repress serious discomfort that ends up either coming out explosively or slowly eroding one’s sense of self-worth, but

No buts. That's just it right there.

this is just living in a society, sweetheart.

Maybe we should improve society somewhat. Also being a condescending dick about other people's difficulties in life isn't cool or helpful or good at all.