I don't know how some people stay on [big social media] while constantly hating being on [big social media].

Two men are talking. One says "I hate social media now. Its all ads and ragebait." The second man says "why not the fediverse? Its community ran and not focused on engagement metrics so its..." The first man cuts him off, "Nah, I'm done signing up for any social media. Everything I've been on is just to toxic." Then the man continues to doomscroll on social media.
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[–] 57 points 2 weeks ago (8 children)

I was very frustrated at everyone getting mad at twitter, and then going to bluesky instead of mastodon.

At a certain point, once everyone is there everyone else has to go there.

I will say fedi right now has a pretty good vibe. Some of the more negative/angry people have left and its been a chill little community lately.

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  • [–] 16 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

    At least with bluesky you can bridge to the fediverse and vice versa. So you can keep it comfy on the fediverse

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  • [–] 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

    Yeah I do that on my personal gotosocial instance. Works well actually.

    I wish there was a really lightweight version of piefed/lemmy that can work on a tiny pi instance like my gotosocial. But this instance is good too.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 weeks ago

    Pick one:

    1. Complicated to selfhost so the mayority uses the main server
    2. Simple to selfhost, hosted by many in their cabinet, total win; copyparty, syncthing, navidrome, immich, gotosocial, haven, radicale, gancio
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  • [–] 0 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

    The truth is, it’s the most balanced people who left. Most people who remain are deep in the echo chamber, which is why it seems more chill: everyone agrees with you and the ones with realistic opinions have left.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

    Would you describe yourself as a balanced person? Have you made many postive comments on here to balance out all of your negative ones?

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  • [–] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    Balanced compared to most lemmy users, yes, though perhaps less than the average person. If you feel balanced on lemmy, then you are very much an extremist.

    My comments seem negative because I only comment on controversial topics, and since I don’t parrot the common opinion around here, it gives them a negative tone. I never bother with the β€œI agree” comments like everyone loves so much, even when I do agree, because they do not incite discussion.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 weeks ago

    Maybe different for different people, but I don't mind disagreement if it's civilized. But some people come in with a ton of snark, condescension and rage, and then when it's revealed that they don't actually know what they're talking about they double down, of course. I've started just blocking when I see the initial symptoms now.

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