I'm sorry, what? When did abuse ever come up? I think you might be way inside your own head there. The entire point of found family is when your birth parents are either dead or abusive and you've gone no contact. Where in my reply did I say you have to stay with abusers? What are you even talking about? You're reading my reply from the perspective of an abusive parent. I'm talking about how decent people always are connected to others. There is some seriously toxic projection going on in this thread

Also, often if someone says another person "probably" does something, without evidence, their argument is invalid. Go touch grass, friend, and think about something positive. You definitely need it