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[–] 4 points 3 weeks ago

I'm a man and that would be very weird to me as well. You have to first test the waters, see if the other person wants to talk, and if they respond positively, you can have your chat. It is a bit like a negotiation: You need to establish that this monkey will not murder and eat that other monkey, and that that other monkey is not in a barely restrained murdering mood itself. Once that's out of the way, have your chat.

If that sounds like a sales tactic, it sadly is. Door to door salesmen employ the very "tricks" deliberately, which sucks, but does not make it less valid. We are cursed with a mind that can analyse itself. Things get easier if one accepts that as basic biology.

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