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[–] 11 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

I'd say that's a little bit overly dramatic take on what I was trying to say. I understand where you're coming from, but I wasn't calling for anyone to read any minds. But a little bit of sensitivity to the facts and statistics is not an unreasonable ask:

Approximately 4.7 million women in Canada — 30% of all women aged 15 and older — have been sexually assaulted outside of an intimate relationship at least once since age 15. [Source: Statistics Canada, 2019]

That's almost 1/3 of women, that's a serious statistic, and it means that, as a man, you have a responsibility to approach unfamiliar women with at least a reasonable measure of respect for their safety and comfort. And it doesn't even account for any potential bias towards exactly the sort of "attractive" women who tend to get approached by men much more frequently than others because they are in fact attractive: they literally attract these sort of situations and you can't assume it's because they choose to.

For someone throwing around accusations of being entitled and self-absorbed, you sound very much like you're in fact the one saying ‘everyone else should cater to me and they are shitty if they don’t do that’.

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  • [–] 7 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 child)

    I've been raped by women. More than one.

    I don't assume every woman I meet is a rapist.

    Because women aren't rapists. Rapists are rapists.

    But please tell me more how I'm a rapist and every woman I talk to, regardless of her attractiveness to me, means I'm potentially going to rape her.

    Also you leave out the fact most women are reaped overwhelmingly by people they already know, friends, co-workers, etc. Not random strangers. Not a convenient fact for your '1/3 random men you see are going to rape you' worldview.

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