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[–] 13 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Hating and completely disconnecting from every single ex every time you break up.

There are times it absolutely makes sense to cut off a toxic ex, but I have a friend who is one of the best friends I could ever ask for, he also happens to be someone I dated for a couple of years when we were young. People think this is weird, but I would move mountains for this man because he is so kind and supportive. His girlfriend is also amazing and she has fantastic taste in music/sports/everything. My partner and I have gone on double dates with them and I always try to hang out with them when I am in town.

Sometimes you find a person who fits in your life perfectly, just not in a romantic way. And sometimes you only figure that out after being romantically involved.

That said, I do have a few ex’s who can eat shit lol

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Seriously. So mich this. Your partner is supposed to be your friend. The romantic side may not work out but the friend bit and shared history can stay.

    (Unfortunately many of my exes got distanced because a lot of men have the sad tendency to confuse friendliness with sexual interest)

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    Yup! I’m at least friendly with most of the folks I’ve dated. I’m always open about this best friend when seeing someone new.

    There has only been one person I dated who really had a problem with it was because he thought friend was just trying to hook up still. Turns out, that guy was a lying cheating jerk and one of those who can eat my 💩

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    I'm friends with both my ex wives. No problem - it's even kinda easy when neither of you are compete assholes during the split.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Exactly! I will even admit, I blindsided him by breaking up and it took a while for us to become friendly again. But he’s one of my best friends and I wouldn’t change any of that for the world.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    Yup, exactly. Was awkward at first, but that fades in to a comfortable friendship. Ofc, might be different if there was betrayal, or infidelity involved - but since neither of us married an asshole, that wasn't the issue.

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