Don't feel bad. You're not the only virgin in their 30s or 40s, so don't get all up in your head about it. We live in lonely times.

Have you honestly been putting yourself out there socially?

(And I mean going out and seeing people and doing things... Not just signing up for a couple of apps.) Even if it's just with friends, you have to put in some effort to be social and expose yourself to at least the possibility of building relationships.

If apps are bad for you or your mental health, then be creative and look for alternative ways.

Also, are your expectations and standards realistic?

You don't have to settle for someone or something you don't want, obviously. But it's important to give people a chance and to accept that whoever you meet isn't going to be a 1:1 manifestation of your dream person.