i must also say that the reason why i read this post and responded to it is because i feel largely the same way. i've met the perfect person (soulmate, if you will) years ago, and one day i called them and asked whether i could come over and she said "that's difficult now, because you see, i got this new boyfriend and he's monogamous so we can't meet anymore" ._,

i don't care about the individual person but i care about community. it can't be that we're treated like this. something has to change. and discussing the single case can help understand and develop the more general strategy.