You're right that dangerous individuals are impossible to spot from any traits like that. I am referring to toxic masculinity as a culture or environment, like chauvinism, condescending attitudes, sleaziness and so on, this is visible and obvious.

I was saying that from my experience women can be very accepting of this behaviour and actively facilitate it depending on who is doing it. I gave an example of a situation involving people I knew well where they stood up for someone being an obvious pest because they found it fun or sexy in some way, while other women involved were mortified at the behaviour. Women can and do facilitate toxic masculinity, but the conversation is always directed at men like they are the only ones that interact with dodgy people