The book is Strong Female Character by Fern Brady. There have been several occasions in the past year where friends have asked me if I was autistic and my answer was typically, "probably not." I knew I shared certain traits with autistic friends but I thought it had to do with my anxiety problems.
Several friends are neuro-spicy. Describing my perspective of things often got a response of how that similar to masking behaviors, or just outright "one of us." But of course i was like, no everyone's like that. Then i started going to therapy for other reasons, and therapist is like, "you have a lot of markers for adult add, would you like to do an assessment?" Yall ive been rawdogging add my whole life.