Then cook your own food.

I do. I buy it, I cook it, and I clean up after myself, no dishwasher. It's difficult because I associate these chores with guilt and punishment because my parents were also authoritarian and abusive.

You sound exactly like the spoiled little bitch kids that my friends raise with the same attitude. Worst kids I’ve ever seen.

You sound unhinged.

They’re gonna have a hard life when they hit adulthood and realize they actually have to do things for themselves

They almost certainly already have a hard life. Stupid, selfish parents don't consider how much pain they're passing along by creating life they can't care for in a society that expects us all to work to death while the planet burns around us.

Generally, yes. Children should have autonomy over their own selves. The challenge for parents is to teach children why chores are worth doing and how to do them without feeling like work or punishment. If parents are not up for that challenge, they probably should not have kids.