... I did not say she shouldn't face social consequences. I said she shouldn't face legal ones. Her friends didn't care about the joke, and thus, her social consequences ended there. That's why she told a joke that was acceptable within the group she told it to.
This is usually how groups work, so I'm lost on what your problem with this js. Like, if you tell a racist joke to your friends, I don't think you should face legal consequences for that, either. But you should face the social consequences of that. Same deal.