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What is something you wish cis people knew? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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What is something you learned or experienced from being trans that you wish you knew pre-transition, or that you wish cis people knew?

I'll go first: the temperature differences when going from testosterone-dominance to estrogen-dominance is not just real but significant, my body just puts out less heat and I feel colder much easier now even when otherwise maintaining a high metabolism, eating in excess, etc.

It may have just been my trans denial before, but I really wanted to believe that the difference was not that great and I was wrong.

What's something you wish people knew?

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[–] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

OK, but I have to ask - what do you mean about women being boob-obsessed?

This is probably a cultural thing, or maybe I just hang out with a bunch of perverts, but whenever I'm out with girl friends the conversation always seems to touch on boobs: how big or small each others' are, bras vs padded camis, how they wish they were closer together or further apart etc etc. I'm not introducing the topic, I promise!

Plus on the occasions I get (re-)introduced to people, which in the past necessitated a bit of "here's our friend, you might know her by another name, but she's a girl, OK?" the usual response is "hey, you have boobs! Can I feel? You can touch mine if you like!"

Given I'm a westerner living in Japan there's a good chance I'll outgrow most of my cis friends, which will probably get me even more attention...

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  • [–] [S] 5 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    oh, Japan - interesting. Are the friends all Japanese, or are they ex-pats like you?

    I live in a very conservative part of the U.S. where women do not seem to bring up boobs much - I've had some discussions with my sister about our boobs, and even pre-transition I've had discussions with a particularly open friend about boobs and nudism / naturism - but I've never had a woman ask to touch my boobs or offer for me to feel their boobs 😅

    I'm pretty insecure about my boobs, they are small for my frame (though maybe larger than a lot of trans girls I know, women in my family tend to be large; a trans girl friend of mine has indicated she wishes she had more boobs after seeing me).

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    All Japanese: I live in the middle of nowhere, pretty much fully gone native (the only time I use English is online, in places like this). The down side is that I stand out like crazy; no hope of a subtle transition away from prying eyes :3

    It does sound like a cultural thing, then. For all that Japan is a very conservative society, there aren't a lot of hangups about bodies, nudity and so on. Unfortunately that also means that it's pretty normal for men to make really vulgar comments about any women around them, which I've already started to experience.

    Pretty small here too, although padded bras can work wonders. But since I'm only just short of a year in to HRT, I'm hoping for quite a bit more in the future.

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