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i feel broken (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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[–] 4 points 3 months ago (6 children)

if you are pre-op

This sounds quite transmedicalist. It does feel she likes to top and also the term you use imply that every transfem must undergo bottom surgery which is not or that it is a goal.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

    The term pre-op does sound presumptuous, but the idea that bottom dysphoria could play a role isn't truscum. My partner loves topping and is on the fence about getting bottom surgery, but still has bottom dysphoria and that's a huge part of why she has trouble orgasming.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Could be that the dysphoria is societal dysphoria or other kind. Like expectations to them. I have faced this towards my body hair.

    I feel uncomfy to go out in other things than jeans and high tigh and is mostly this. That does not means I needed full epilation but a environment where I felt safe to be myself there and not to worry for some hair in my legs.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago

    I definitely feel this! I haven't dealt with dysphoria in a long time, and I rarely deal with any form of bigotry in my personal life, but I still feel that pressure! I've been late to things because the stubble on my legs was just a little too long, even though it's unlikely anyone would notice it, and I had to shave. Hell, even today I wore a long skirt instead of shorts because I didn't have time to shave! Super annoying, especially because no one would likely notice or care, but I'm sure someone made an off comment when I was impressionable and now that's psychic damage I gotta live with.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago*

    Normally I wouldn't say someone is a transmed for using language like that because pre-op, post-op, and non-op are common language used in the community to self-describe different stages people are at when it comes to surgical transition or even whether they want to. However they have expressed transmedicalist views towards me directly so your concerns are 100% justified due to their past behavior which has not changed.

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