this is just a bad faith thing to do when you are not willing to make a similar effort

It takes very little energy to provide mountains of evidence but that doesn't make it bad faith. Just look around at geopolitics to see it at play.

• 130+ years of posturing for oil reserves
• The power of China's rare earth embargo on Japan
• South American power struggles for Lithium
• The Democratic Republic of Congo holding 70% of all Cobalt
• The majority of global staple foods produced in six sub-regions of the United States, Brazil, China, India, Ukraine and Russia
• The early positioning for Africa's untapped insolation potential
• Brazil, Russia, USA and Canada controlling huge chunks of the world's freshwater reserves while 1/5 of the global population is heading towards permanent drought

There are no "reasonable alternatives" for those resources; you have them or you don't. Not having them puts you at huge disadvantage against adversaries who use them against you.

What inter-community solidarity will stop endless waves of drones with guns from occupying your critical resources? How will your community plead with the subjugated drone makers on another continent when the subjugator controls all media access?

The plainest fact I can see: the people who control the biggest slices of those pies will have the power to extort and subjugate most people, anarchist or otherwise. And as a corollary, the anarchist society will be at an incredible disadvantage against a state bolstered with subjugated labor.

Anarchist are not forcing people to to anarchy when most of them do not want to do that

You're looking right past my question: what preserves a state of anarchy in a sea of state actors? How does a system of voluntary and conditional participation remain cohesive at a scale that can sustain itself in real world conditions, specifically while retaining core anarchist principles?

I'm not opposed to anarchism in general, it makes sense as a personal philosophy and day to day mindset. But I'm baffled by those who believe they can manifest a strong stateless society. I truly don't see how it could be sustained beyond fleeting and niche scenarios. "Go read theory" is a cop out answer for such a basic question.

And unless I missed a section in your reference, none of that touched on my question at all. It's hyper-focused on the internal stabilizing forces of anarchist societies. That's all well and good, but none of it details the specific mechanisms that grant any advantages to preserve anarchism from communists shooting you in the back or colonialists looting your resources.